Yesterday our divorce went to the Orange County court. A judge was sitting in a courtroom and going through all the cases that would have been handled in person by lawyers-- were it not this unusual pandemic year. I imagined the judge in a dimly lit, drafty room, sitting and reading the facts on each … Continue reading When It’s Over
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Life in Pictures: Looking Back while Moving Forward
This week I reached the final phase of cleaning out the clutter from my life: tackling boxes of photographs. When we first started out as a family, I kept our photos organized in albums. But soon that became impossible for me with raising kids and working-- so the pictures went into boxes. Over the years … Continue reading Life in Pictures: Looking Back while Moving Forward
Crossing over The Gap
In last week's post, "Trusting God in The Gap," I revisited Bill Bridges Map for Change that I'd learned in my Life Coaching Program. His model breaks the process into three phases: Endings, The Gap, and New Beginnings. I realized that I was struggling with being in the middle-- having partially worked through many Endings … Continue reading Crossing over The Gap
Revisiting the Shifting Sands
Last year on this weekend, I was on my solo journey to the Outer Banks of North Carolina. That was a difficult trip because I knew while I was away, my husband would tell our sons that our marriage would be ending. But it was also a trip filled with beautiful sites, the salty breeze … Continue reading Revisiting the Shifting Sands
The Law of Subtraction
Yes, the law of subtraction. That's what came to me at 3:30 that early January morning when my mind was overloaded, trying to figure out how to add another activity to my already busy schedule. My friends had insisted, against my protest, that I needed to be in a DivoceCare group now, no putting it … Continue reading The Law of Subtraction
Love Letters Straight from Their Hearts
Years ago when Mama went to Parkview and we were cleaning out her house, we sorted the contents of her closets. Mama was never one to throw anything away, especially not cards or correspondence; the same had been true of Daddy. One box proved to be quite a treasure: letters Mama and Daddy sent to each … Continue reading Love Letters Straight from Their Hearts
Mercy at the DMV
It was Tuesday morning. Better than Monday or Friday the news coverage had advised when they showed the long wait at the DMV-- Department of Motor Vehicles. I couldn't believe I was having to subject myself to the pain of standing in that long line. I'd sent in my renewal form earlier than usual. But a … Continue reading Mercy at the DMV
Write Your New Story for 2020
Stepping into 2020, a New Year, a New Decade I can't help but compare how different I'm starting this year from last, this decade from the one that started 2010. I'd assumed that my life would continue on the same trajectory that I'd anticipated of growing old with my husband and being married until we … Continue reading Write Your New Story for 2020
Different Kinds of Courage
Last Monday we celebrated Veteran's Day. I thought of the men in my family who have served in the Armed Forces-- my father and my uncles in WWII, my cousins in Vietnam, and then male and female acquaintances in more recent wars. When I see the news coverage of war I wonder what it feels … Continue reading Different Kinds of Courage
Anxiety to Gratitude: Making a Switch
Last Monday night, I left the therapy session feeling satisfied that I'd said what I needed to say and realizing that those sessions aren't for the faint of heart. There have been plenty of times when I would have benefitted from a therapist, a trained professional that would've helped me sort out my life; but … Continue reading Anxiety to Gratitude: Making a Switch
Connie Rosser Riddle 